Reflections on Job - 3 - How we talk to each other in the name of love

Job was in unimaginable pain. He tragically lost his sons and daughters and his livelihood in almost one swoop, and then he became very ill with some kind of pox that created boils over all his skin. How could he bear it? Even his wife becomes sick of him because of all the tragedy that has happened to him. "Curse God and die!" she said to him.

Three of Job's friends (presumably his very closest friends) came to mourn with him over these deeply personal tragedies. For seven days and nights they sat quietly and mourned with him.

Finally, Job cried: "Oh, why was I ever born?" And then the friendships take on a new character.

How often have I seen or experienced the Job scenario, either as Job or as one of Job's friends? Here's the way I see it:

We have four friends, one of whom is really in trouble.

At first, the non-troubled friends console the troubled friend. We sit together, quietly.

After sitting together so long, the troubled friend manages to speak. "Oh, I am so miserable, I wish I could die." Things begin to escalate from here.

We start with "You have helped so many..." and end with "You must have done something terribly wrong or God wouldn't be putting this trouble on you."

The focus begins with the troubled friend and ends with each non-troubled friend besting the advice of the others. The focus is no longer on Job. It's on how wise we we are and how we each understand God better than the others.

Oh, that we would learn to keep silent, except for prayer.

Oh, that we would not have this need to best each other.

Oh, that we would remember that we are all in the same boat, no matter how smart we are.

Oh, that we would remember that God is God, and that we are not.

But back to the main point: All these conversations started with a simple gesture of love. Three of us came to the fourth because the fourth was in trouble and we three cared about our friend. And then things escalated. It happens. It happens all the time.

Is it better that it happened than if it hadn't? Maybe so. Maybe this is the way it is. Maybe this is the way it has to be. Job did have the companionship of his friends. He wasn't humanly alone. Because of his friends, perhaps, Job came to a better understanding of how deep his faith was. Job was able to witness to his great faith in God, to speak the words in his heart that maybe he didn't even know were there. Job's values were certainly clarified during this time.

God bless us, and bless our friends. We don't know how to do it well. Only God can make sense of it. Only God knows what good will come of it. Only God can make good of it all - to our benefit, even. God have mercy on us. God has mercy on us.

Reflections on Job - 2 - Praying for my children and grandchildren

During this reading of Job, I have the advantage of having read it a number of times before and all the dialog is filtered through my previous knowledge.

This time around, right off the bat I'm touched by this passage:

His sons used to go and hold a feast in the house of each one on his day (birthday), and they would send and invite their three sisters to eat and drink with them. When the days of feasting had completed their cycle, Job would send and consecrate them, rising up early in the morning and offering burnt offerings according to the number of them all; for Job said, 'Perhaps my sons have sinned and cursed God in their hearts.' (Job 1: 4-5, NASB)

During my study, these two verses kept calling me back.

Job wanted to make sure his son's sins were covered just in case they had cursed God in their hearts. A few points call themselves to me:

• Job loved his children. Although the Bible tells of his prayer for his sons, had Job lived in these days, I'm sure he would have prayed for his daughters as well.
• Job loved his children very much. He was their father, their patriarch, and he was responsible for them as such. They were blessings God had given him. Above all things, Job loved and trusted God.
• The sons would invite the three sisters to celebrate with them. In this, we see siblings who take care of each other, who are still considered a family unit even though they are grown and have separate lives of their own.
• And the big point, the one that kept calling me back: Job prayed for forgiveness for his sons, just in case.

My prayers for my children usually go something like this:

- Make them strong

- Make them happy

- Keep them healthy

- Keep them safe

- Keep them on the right path

- Help them find a job, a house, a good neighborhood, good moral and upright friends, etc

But it's not my usual prayer to ask God to forgive them ... especially not just in case.

Job 1:4-5 has enriched my life forever. My morning prayers for my daughter and her family now will be more like this:

Dear Lord, Keep them healthy and strong in you. Keep them together so they can support each other spiritually and emotionally as they grow older. Keep them safe. Protect them in their jobs, whether at school or at work. Give them good friends who know You, and give them a happy life. Forgive them for any sins they may have committed against you. Keep them in the faith.

Reflections on Job - 1 - Overview

Job tells a story of universal personal pain. Everyone experiences pain, but our responses to it vary. Job's response is one I always want to remember, because Job knew God was there and he never forgot it.

I just purchased a new Bible - the 1999 NASB version (replacing an earlier version) coupled with Zondervan Study Notes. The NASB and the NLT are my all-time favorite versions of the Bible: The NASB because it is a traditional word-for-word translation in modern language and the NLT because it is a word-for-word and then a thought-by-thought translation in my language. My NLT version is the Life Application version, a version I fell in love with from the first words I read. I have used it almost exclusively since I first purchased it, not long after it was originally published. Only recently have I begun to long for my old friend, the NASB, and now I use them side by side,

The NASB-Zondervan ends Job with this explanation:

Despite Job's mistakes in word and attitude while he suffered, he is now commended and the counselors are rebuked. Why? Because even in his rage, even when he challenged God, he was determined to speak honestly before him. The counselors, on the other hand, mouthed many correct and often beautiful creedal statements, but without living knowledge of the God they claimed to honor. Job spoke to God; they only spoke about God...

The words that spoke most loudly to me are in bold. Oh, that I should remember this always. The difference tells what one's relationship to God represents - a God who knows us versus a God we only know about.

Lord, however I perceive my pain, whatever I perceive my pain is, teach me to bring it to you directly - not to my friends, not to my inner self, but let me bring it to you and keep my eyes on you. Teach me to be more like Job.